In this big busy world, we meet many people, teachers, preachers and wise men etc. and everyone has something to teach us, but before any other learning, one should learn to love themselves. Now, the question arises, how do we love ourselves? Should I take myself on a date? Or should I dance with myself?
Well, why not? Take yourself for a coffee, turn on your favourite song and dance. And the best thing is, you won’t expect anything for yourself because you’ll know that you can never stop loving yourself. So now taking things practically, how should a person fall in love with himself or herself.
Here are the 6 best ways to love and show affection to yourself :
1. Do what makes you Happy
This is very simple, and it’s like: you want ice cream, go and get it, as simple as that. You need to keep YOUR happiness on the top of your priority list. Don’t let anyone else tell you what you should do or what you should not do, and it’s your life, no one knows better than you about what can make you happy.
Even if it’s at the cost of someone else’s expectation. But that doesn’t mean that you can hurt anyone. Remember the difference between self-love and being self-obsessed. It’s okay to be A BIT selfish when it comes to being happy.
2. Never regret anything
Most of the time, we waste our time regretting about what we shouldn’t have done three months ago. Now, ask yourself, is what happened three months ago, worth mourning? That’s something you can’t change, so why waste our time regretting about the things that we can’t change.
Another thing is, nothing is right or wrong; everything teaches us something. For instance, if I did something and later found it to be incorrect, so now I know what I should not do. A person can’t always be right, and it’s okay to be incorrect. That proves that you are a human and you’re trying.
Also read, Love Just Loves: Heal yourself with the practice of Self-Love.
3. Be grateful, Always
If ever you feel low and think that life can’t be even worse, have a look around yourself. You’ll realise you have unlimited blessings to grateful for. Go one day without complaining about anything, and you’ll see how beautifully your life changes. Have an attitude of gratitude towards almost everything.
You wake up, thank God for a brand new day, you have food to eat, thank your mom or whosoever cooks, thank your father for your clothes, thank your teachers; you can be thankful for everything you can see around you. Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday, and every day is a brand new to start, the choice is always yours.
4. Keep helping everyone you can and be kind
Everyone on the earth is fighting a battle we know nothing about, so be helpful, it only costs a smile. If you can, then help anyone who needs you, that might be a small thing to you but may take a big space in someone else’s heart. And it also makes you feel good and happy about yourself. No act of kindness is ever wasted as it always gives a positive impact on your life– and must not forget that Understanding these psychological effects for a better life.
5. Always be a student
Always be willing to learn — listen more than you speak. Even if you are 95 years old, still you can learn something from a 3-year-old kid. Never think that you know everything, there is always someone better and there is always room for the improvement.
Being a student, you can learn a lot of things in your life, no matter how much educated you are or have the skill and the talent you can always learn the words from everyone and everywhere. You must not have forgotten the tale that you have studied at primary school, which was about the spider and the king. In the story, the king learnt not to lose faith in yourself, and there is always space for learning new things.
6. Be a crazy baby
You grow old only when you start acting like old. Always keep the child in your heart alive. Do stupid, insane stuff that makes you happy, like: Draw stupidly, colour outside the lines, play with toys if you like and so much more. Make the best out of your life, dream big and make it happen, believe in magic and Santa clause, even if you know they don’t exist — believe in them. Life is too short to be anything, but you can make it happy. You don’t need a reason for celebration, make every day the best day of your life and celebrate it.
There are so many other ways to love yourself, that you create yourself; there’s no limit to your imagination. Life is beautiful, and you have to understand that. The problems we have to make life happening. Just imagine if you don’t have any question, and everything was smooth, would you call it a life? What will you struggle or fight for? If you don’t know what is sadness and how could you appreciate happiness?
Fall in love with yourself before falling for anyone else. Know your worth and never let anyone treat you anything less. This is your life, and yours only, no one will take responsibility for your choices, and no one else is going to walk in your shoes. People will come and go from your life, but you have to live it.