Feminism is real.
Feminism is needed.
Feminism is strength.
It is every girl that takes the bus and gives her seat to any elderly person or any human being that seems to need it more.

It is the woman who walks to her boardroom full of male directors and makes her voice heard.

It is the woman who never bows down because of her gender. It is also the woman who never takes advantage because of it.

For her, the gender is merely a social construct that identifies her sexuality for others. Just that.

Feminism is that woman fighting her husband’s family and her own in the court of law against domestic violence.

Because “ji ye chote mote jhagre to ho jaate he pati patni k beech” was not a good enough excuse for her.

She is the woman fighting against health, family, friends, reality and the whole society because “ji ladke the… Garam khoon hota he… galati ho gai. Ab ye choti dress me raat ko club me kya kr rai thi?”

Yes. Try fighting that.

And she is also the girl who fights with same vigour for the male rape victims. For the bisexual rape victims. For the transgender rape victims. For the asexual rape victims. And any other rape victims that fall for “jawan ladko ka garam khoon” problem.

Yes. She will fight for them equally for, as i said earlier, gender is merely a social construct for her. Nothing more.

Feminist is that woman being called fat and yet as she looks into the mirror, she consciously decides to love herself. Accept herself.

Yes. She is what a feminist looks like.

The woman that has broken free from the cosmetic body image of those shallow eyes.

When a storm comes, she won’t hang by your shoulders. She will be in the middle of it shielding you and all that she loves.

She won’t cry on your shoulders and expect you to fight for her. She has her squad ready. She can fight and when she needs it, the squad will too.

A feminist is that woman who will be just as sexually charged as you and be unapologetic for it. The woman who won’t know what it is to be coy. She would not know those age old filmy demeanours. No. She will be who she is. For she accepts who she is.

She will be the woman who will hold your hand and she is the woman that will fight next to you.

She will be the woman you can fall back to. The woman you can look up to.


When you see such a woman, know that she is a feminist.

She wouldn’t need a saviour. No. She has no use of it. She is fine.

She doesn’t need you to save her.

She chooses you.

She wants you.

But doesn’t need you.

Yes. That will be a feminist.

But they are all about child custody and alimony in the end, you say?

No self-respecting woman will go for alimony. No feminist would.

First of, if you’ve married a feminist, chances are she’ll be earning more.

And then there shall be a division of assets. But alimony? No. She can support her child. You took it all out of her when you decided to leave. When you drove her to throw away the dream of a safe haven for her child and just walk out.

For, barring a few (and i doubt if they are even worthy of being called a woman, just like some men aren’t worthy of that title), a woman would do anything for her child. That is her basic nature. Protect. Nurture. Fiercely so.

So if she is throwing caution to the wind and all those dreams of a peaceful life and walking out, something has gone really wrong in the relationship.

Such a woman wouldn’t care about alimony. She has already decided to move on. To pick up her guns. To fight.

And when i see your problems with feminism, they are so trivial as against the problems of those that need feminism that i know not how to react.

You’re worried she will take your money?

Well keep a human inside you for months, give birth to it, see it’s future disintegrated into two pieces of parenthood, keep her/him with you, bring her/him up, alone. And see what society does to you. What people do to you. And in what ways.

But you keep your money. You and your likes. Keep your money by all means.
And in spewing such hatred as you do, you know what it is that you are proving?

Just this that is the alternative of feminism is you and your kinds, then that is no different from the very people you talk against. Those sick human beings that hide behind the garb of feminism. Yes. They are exactly like you. For they hate. They complain. They fight an unjust fight. They do not listen. They do not see. They are selfish and self serving. And just that.

And so are you, my friend. So are you.


It doesn’t boil down to the most expensive mascara.

It doesn’t even start there.

It doesn’t even matter.

Not to a feminist.

For she is capable of giving the world her message without having to underline it with kohl.

Yes! She is a feminist.

Sanskriti Tomar
Studied at La Martiniere Girls' College, Lucknow. Graduated in English honours from Jesus and Mary College, Delhi University. An SSI certified Open Water SCUBA Diver. Love to travel, meet new people, read, write and eat. A trained Awadhi Kathak dancer. A cat-lover. A recreational photographer; and a lover of all forests, deserts, mountains and beaches. Travelled across India and hope to go abroad. In love with Sea Turtles and Elephants.